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Why I don’t like All shapes and sizes acceptance movements

Thursday, February 15th, 2018

This is a post about why I don’t like all shapes and sizes body acceptance movements.

1) They abandon you when you decide to lose some weight because you were tired of not finding clothes in your size or not fitting into all seats or getting achy joints or having troubles going up or down the stairs or getting tired moving around and your legs rubbing together when you walk.

2) They only care about eating disorders and people being so anorexic they are damaging their bodies and being hospitalized for it but they don’t care about obesity diseases. I wonder if they even care if someone is binging on food and doing comfort eating or has an eating addiction?

3) While they may work out and eat healthy, they still frown upon thinnies who do the same and call it fat shaming.

4) They gloss over the affects of obesity disease and don’t care if being anorexic is also unhealthy when you say “being too big and too skinny is unhealthy.” They will block you for that.

5) They think you are fat shaming just because you don’t want to be fat and think you don’t accept your body or because you feel fat or see yourself as fat

6) They think any diet is bad but yet they are eating healthy or sticking to lean products and eating sweets in moderation, that is a diet my friend

7) They dismiss health facts as fat shaming and will also block you for it

8) They hate TV shows out there like My 600 LB Life to show reality of what it’s like to be morbid obese and how debilitating that it and see it as fat shaming and they don’t care how much it affects that person on the show

9) They see any comments out there as fat shaming even though the definition of it says:

the action or practice of humiliating someone judged to be fat or overweight by making mocking or critical comments about their size.
“the star endured fat shaming and cyberbullying for the weight she gained while pregnant”
expressing mockery or criticism about someone judged to be fat or overweight.
“she refuses to resort to extreme dieting because of fat-shaming bullies”

They see fat shaming everywhere when it’s not even there. See 3, 4, 5, 7, and 8

10) They try to delude other people to believe they can never change their body and this is just who they are and get them to not take care of themselves and try and make them give up. Hey if they want to make changes to themselves, let them. None of your business.

11) They see overweight people as trying to get rid of overweight people when they lose weight and work at it.

12) They make it be about them

13) They feel threatened when a healthy person decides to lose some weight to look better but yet they don’t feel threatened when a healthy person decides to put one some weight. See 1, they abandon you when you do lose some weight despite having none of those things.

14) They dismiss thin shaming just because they still get thin privileges and don’t see it as the same.

15) The hypocrisy. See 2, 3, 6, and 13.

16) They seem to have something against people being thin (not talking about anorexia here)

17) They play the feelings police, see 5. They think they can dictate how you should feel about yourself or else you are “fat shaming.” Body image issues are real and they make it be all about them, see 12. It doesn’t matter how someone feels about themselves, just because they don’t want to be fat doesn’t mean they view you less as a person just because you are bigger than them or smaller or have a different body shape or size than they do. This is what I mean by they make it be all about them.

18) They dismiss thin struggles eg. not finding clothes that fit just because see 14.

19) They think all diets lead to eating disorders. No they do not. Anorexia is a disease. People do not get anorexia from dieting, they get it because they got that disease so they do unhealthy things. Anorexia is not a diet, it’s a disease. There is such thing as an unhealthy diet and that is common in anorexia. See 6, eating healthy is a diet. Eating snacks in moderation and sweets is a diet. But it’s a healthy one.

If you are a body positive person and also part of the “All Bodies comes in shapes and sizes” movement and the list above doesn’t fit you and you agree with what I have written, let me know because I would love to hear not every all shapes and sizes acceptance person is like this. I still have yet to find you guys.

I do agree that everyone is different and have different body types and it doesn’t matter if you wear a size 6 or a size 10 or a size 16 but I will never join this movement because of how toxic it is and do not wish to be part of any of this nor be lumped with this group.

I do not dismiss science or health facts nor do I promote obesity and anorexia. I do not promote fat shaming and shaming people for their bodies and making fun of them or throwing stuff at them or laughing at them if they fall or can’t fit into a seat or if they are having troubles getting up, etc. not cool. I also do not promote feeders or parents letting their kids get overweight and teaching them to be obese. Instead I promote teaching them to eat in moderation and not eat for comfort or boredom and teaching them to eat healthy. I tell my kids too much of anything is bad; food, water, exercise, body fat, and too little of anything is bad and the list repeats. Body Acceptance Movements do not care about this and they see anything in between as a threat. See 4.

Any rude or hostile comments will be ignored and not approved but I will welcome any comments even if you don’t agree because I welcome different perspectives and different views even if I don’t agree. 🙂


Why I think the whole Cassandra thing is bullshit

Monday, March 13th, 2017

I do not doubt that people on the autism spectrum can cause problems for their partners and give them problems and stress but I do not agree with the whole Cassandra Affective Disorder thing. Here’s why?

Every person with a disorder is going to be hard for anyone. Even being with an ASD person as an ASD person is going to be hard too. Being with someone who has an eating disorder or an anxiety disorder, obsessive compulsive disorder, ADHD, PTSD, etc is going to be hard for everyone who is with them. Hell even having PMS is going to make it hard for your partner. But you know what, there has not been any alternate labels created for those who have been affected by other disorders so why only autism?

Why isn’t there a label for those who are affected by partners who have any cluster B disorders or a label for those who are affected by a partner who has anxiety or OCD or ADHD, cerebral palsy, being confined to a wheelchair,  PTSD, etc.

So this whole Cassandra thing is ridiculous. We already have a diagnoses like PTSD, anxiety, and depression so why a new label? What is so special about being in a relationship with someone on the autistic spectrum that it warrants its own label? Because it means deprivation and they say that the autistic person withholds love and support from their partners so it harms them but that still doesn’t make sense because a person with any disorder is going to cause problems for their partner and there are no separate labels for it. What about none ASD people out there who also don’t show love and support to their partners and also lack empathy for them? Why not make a label for that too? So why only ASD?

What about people who are asexual or have a low sex drive or for some reason lacks interest in sex? Why not make that a label because after all the partner is going to be starved from sex.

Or what about people who are introverts and their partner is a extrovert, should we have a label for that because they might be starved from socializing and being with their friends or from going out with their partner to places?

What about people who have sensory processing issues? Shall we also have a label for that because their partners might also be starved from giving affection to them and be starved from having “normal” sex and not being able to do affection and love?

What about people who suck at giving gifts, shall we have a label for that because the partner might be starved from getting good gifts from them so therefore it’s going to affect them thinking their partner doesn’t put enough effort into it? Yes this is a real thing because there is a thread on Reddit about getting bad gifts from their partner but yet they can give great baby shower gifts. Then there is the other thread about their partner suck with birthdays so they act like a jerk on that day so maybe there should be a label for that too.

This is how silly it gets with this whole Cassandra thing and why it’s discriminatory and why so many ASD people object to this label.





My “friend” is pissing me off

Monday, February 20th, 2017

So I have found out slowly over the past four years that he is a xenophobic, is racist,  conservative and believes Obama’s birth certificate is a fake and thinks he is Muslim, and now I find out he is a Holocaust denier.

He had been dodging my questions lately when I would ask him about his beliefs so after he dodged it again when I asked him his his schools were Holocaust deniers and made Hitler out to be a great man, and he dodged the question again, I lost it and told him he was racist, a bigot, a Nazi and how he stereotypes groups and how him dodging my questions makes me think of those things of him or otherwise he would have told me he wasn’t either of these things because it’s either lie to me or don’t answer and that gives away his answer anyway.

This wasn’t the first time he has pissed me off and I have felt like deleting our conversation thread in the past and moving on but the only reason why I keep talking to him is because of my stories I write. He is the only one I talk to about them. I accidentally found out these things about him as we talked and he had the nerve to reveal these things about him like justifying hatred about Muslims and them being shot for no reason and then he would go on about how bad they are and posting stories about terrorists trying to make me a Muslimophobic.

Then he sends me an email apologizing for not realizing how much he had hurt my feelings and then he goes on justifying it again and saying I need to live in his country for a while and I would change my view.

Then he tells me in PM he will respect me avoiding certain topics with him and said he would still like to clarify some things because it upsets him that I think he thinks of stuff he doesn’t even think and I still am not interested because I don’t want to know anymore disturbing things about him and I don’t know what else he might say that could upset me.

Then he sends me a PM again linking to some article I didn’t dare to click on because I don’t know if he is at it again with his justification for his bigotry. I recently heard there was another terrorist attack. I told him if he wants to talk about terrorists and how Europe has a problem with them, go ahead but I don’t want to hear about Muslims being bad and stuff, only talk about terrorists. That is like someone lumping all ABDLs together saying they all invade incontinent forums with their AB fantasies and posting comments to incontinent videos asking them to see their diaper or asking if anyone changes them and being all creepy. Actually someone did do that which is why I lost lot of respect for that person because she is a bigot. If she wants to complain about ABs invading incontinent communities and being all creepy by posting their fantasies there, do that but do not lump us all in that group, see the difference?  That is what I told my friend.

Now I need another break from him because I am so sick of his bigotry and racism and he said he would quit but then does it again with the link, ugh. I have been so exhausted all weekend because of how much he had upset me. I am afraid to go back again. What is wrong with him? I feel like throwing my computer across the room because of how angry I feel.


My rant about Dell

Monday, September 21st, 2015

Dell has always pissed me off because they seem to have poor listening skills or our communication either sucks.

I have always had problems with my computer ever since I have gotten it. But we have also had problems with their customer support it has involved taking my computer to a computer place that fixes them for low price for us to know what the real problem is and then going back to dell to report about it.

They used to send people over to fix my computer and it has been very simple before before they started to make it hard for us. They have replaced the part for the AC adapter, replaced the fans, replaced keys on my keyboard. But one time my son broke my AC adapter because he slipped on it and fell on it so it broke. I used my mom’s for a while. My husband ordered a replacement online for me from their website but they sent the wrong one. I thought my husband did a goof up. But we sent it back and they sent back a replacement and it was only one half of the cord so my husband called them back so we sent it back and we get the other part again we had sent back, this was pissing me off so my husband called them back and I just wanted to demand where I can buy this locally and if there are any Dell stores around here because I am sick of them messing up our order, they finally sent us the right one and I had used that same one ever since. Another time the sound quit working so we tell Dell that but they said it was a virus that did it and said it was my fault even though I had no downloaded anything and they didn’t find any problems so they were going to charge us. I decided I will just use head phones since it still works with them. We could never get the speaker issues resolved and then finally they said it was a software issue and they were going to charge us because I didn’t have software warranty. I take it to the computer place instead and it turns out it was I either need new speakers or it’s the mother board. Also they said I needed a new keyboard and mouse key which I could also never fix with Dell because they said I had the keys turned off. I did not because the other key worked but not the left one. Dell just wouldn’t listen or my husband sucked at his communication.

So my husband calls Dell again and reports it all to them and this time they finally listen and say they think it may be the motherboard and they wanted us to send my computer in. So they send the box and I ship it to them and they replaced several things and finally the speakers work for the first time in over a year.

After one week of having the computer back again, the computer falls off my lap because of my daughter and two keys fall off. My husband calls Dell again and I was expecting to be paying for it because it was caused by human damage and they said they would send the replacement keys and I just pop them back on. Instead they send the keyboard. So here I am trying figure out how to do this myself without worrying about ruining my own computer. Maybe I will just stick with two busted keys or take it to that computer place and pay them to do the work.

I have tried to call Dell myself but I can never find the right phone number and get through the voice menu when I do call and I keep messing up and my anxiety gets in the way when I try and figure it out because I get so frustrated so my husband does it. It would be so much easier if they just had people you ca automatically talk to right when you call the number, not have these stupid voice menus and you talking to a computer. It’s like they do these things to keep people like me away so they make it me proof because they do not provide you to stay on the line for someone to pick up or have to push a number to talk to someone like other places do.

Yeah and I have seen people online say how people should use Google to tell them how to fix their computers and all but they don’t seem to get that not everyone can still figure it out even after looking it up and I am one of those people. I still can’t even figure out how to make a streetpass relay in my home after I have looked up instructions how to do it. See not everyone is tech smart. It’s like expecting people to look up how to do algebra and then expect them how to do the problems all of a sudden or expecting anyone to look up calculus or other college math problems and expecting them how to do them all of a sudden when not everyone is good with math. Dell probably thinks I can just look it up and do it myself but I need someone with me or need step by step instructions how to do it and i can’t get that from a video or from words. I guess I am better off taking it to the computer show and hand them the keyboard and have them pop it right in even if it might cost me over $100. I have hardware warranty so it shouldn’t cost me anything but I wonder if they want us to drop them or not renew the warranty from them so they are making it hard for us so we will drop their service. That sounds like a very logical conclusion because of how companies work when they want someone to leave like your boss starts giving you less hours so you will quit or not put you on schedule so I wouldn’t see why a company wouldn’t so the same for their customers when they want them to stop using their service.