Of years I have been posting online, people have always gotten provoked or offended by things I have said. I realize no matter how I word things, someone will always take offense. I can use I statements, someone will still take offense. I can even talk about my personal experience, someone will still take offense. This is the internet and I am sure this happens to everyone and I have seen it happen to others. So I decided I am going to start collecting my own comments that have offended someone and put them here for entertainment for others to read. I even started thinking about starting a game thread online on a forum saying “I am offended” and it could be about anything silly like “I am offended that they cancelled Parenthood” or “I am offended someone said online they got a new puppy.”
Now on with my “offensive” comments. These ones here have been recent.
This seems to be a pattern I have noticed and I am not sure if it’s a coincidence.
In A Teenager’s Journey written by Richard Pelzer brother of Dave Pelzer, he wrote that his mom all of a sudden didn’t remember any abuse she did to him so he thought she was a schizophrenic.
In one of Sarah Burleton’s books, she wrote in there about her younger sister Emily telling her how their mother has no memory of doing any abuse to her and having a donkey on her land whom she killed and Emily was really worried because she wondered what if her mom really was sick.
I think I have heard of other stories about abusers forgetting what they did to their victims.
Now for the final part, I finally got a message from my ex also denying all the abuse she did to me. The only thing she admitted was the Dish network thing and apologized for “taking too long” to give it to me and sorry it put me through suck stress. I think she meant to say such stress.
Do they really get amnesia or are they just pretending to not remember? Why does this happen? Is it gaslighting they are doing to mess with our heads?
Someone in the thread made it personal saying to me and everyone else who responded to my thread that we all must be perfect and never hurt anyone. Then he starts talking about in his post how people make mistakes and how you can hurt people without being a psychopath and saying you can hurt people and have a conscience and also saying you can hurt people and accept responsibility for your actions. Then he asks if people should just up and kill themselves and they make a mistake and if we think so little of people who have offended us and so on, just a lecture he gave us.
First of all I was only asking if abusers forget their abuse or not, this had nothing to do about being perfect or not every have made a mistake ever.
That person did tell me later in my other thread that it was nothing I did wrong and it was just him because he could identify himself in my post and said I was fine and didn’t mean to upset me.
Sometimes so called self diagnosers with AS don’t even know what it is. I didn’t know what it was when I was first diagnosed. For a while I just thought AS was a set of behaviors and flaws and being a target for being discriminated and targeted and being rejected because that is what I had read about it online long before they had blogs so I could to what I was reading about it even though not all of it fit. So I had always worked on my behaviors to get better so I often question my symptoms since I keep hearing how exhausting it is to keep it up while it’s been the opposite for me and how it’s a lifetime condition and supposedly you never get better from practice. So confusing. Maybe I was just socially awkward and just had a bad personality and it got me diagnosed because of my anxiety and low self esteem and because of my incompetent school staff and other mean kids who were intolerant of differences and because I was trying to be “normal” to better myself so I could be “normal” and be liked and have friends. After all some people just need to have this condition to feel better about themselves and feel it’s not their fault for their failures and how others treat them.
I talked about myself here though I have never self diagnosed. But back then before we had blogs, all we had were “webMD” articles so it was all vague what I was reading about Asperger’s. I keep questioning my symptoms and wonder if my mom is right what she says to me about myself. I do often believe I was only diagnosed with this because of my anxiety (my mom said the same too), mean kids and their lack of tolerance for differences (my mom also says they were just mean kids), incompetent school staff, me trying to be normal because I didn’t accept myself and I had a narrow view on the word normal. Also Stanley Turecki did write in his book that some difficult children do get diagnosed. I don’t think all people who are different always get diagnosed because it depend son their life factors, what kind of people they are with, their personality, how they handle things, but however if they are having struggles like I did, a diagnoses will be given. A diagnoses means getting the help and support you need, the education, it also opens more doors in your life so you can be normal. I don’t know if an anxiety disorder diagnoses alone would get me to where I am now.
But someone took this comment personally and made it be about them and said I was very judgmental to those with AS and self identifiers and said what she has gathered most so called self diagnosers actually seem to do a lot of research before coming to their conclusion. Then said before she got her diagnoses, she had the necessity to self diagnose and trust her it was not something she wanted to be part of and then said she made very sure there might be something to it before she even believed herself that is may be a possibility. She did say more too but it bothered me that she took offense to my comment and didn’t take it literal. So I said.
Um I did say SOMETIMES and SOME self diagnosers. What happened to your literal thinking? Oh wait, aspies are people too so they are not going to fit every symptom in the book so hence not taking me literal.
Yes they are human so of course they won’t always be literal and they will also read into things too that are not there just like anyone else. I don’t think many people are a textbook case and that is pretty rare. Because I get so sick of people taking my comments personally and taking them out of context and making it all about them, I acted this way because other people have already done it to me in the past and sometimes I get so fed up, I don’t get nice about it.
The post thinks I question other peoples diagnoses which is what she said in her reply to this comment even though I said nothing about the diagnosed. She also said I was being sarcastic in my response. She said said I make the forum not a good place to be and I am one of the people she needed to avoid because of my “BS” I say angers and stresses her. Then said “But that is just an excuse right?” and then said I don’t care and I lack insight and compassion and and have no understanding.
Then of course that member goes on starting a thread about me and talks about it and other members she has a issue with. I of course don’t respond in it because I don’t tell she was upset and I didn’t want to trigger her more so I sat back so she could calm down and plus even apologizing for getting her upset wouldn’t do any good and telling her what my intention was because she would just call it gas lighting and say my apology was fake because I wasn’t sorry for what I wrote, I would only be sorry for she got upset. And I know how that would come off to her. Then she left the forum and did come back but left again.
But I figure this is how she feels about herself in my post I wrote and my post just triggered her so she took it out on me. But so far she hasn’t apologized or admitted her bad at her end.
These kind of topics used to make me feel uncomfortable too about autism being over diagnosed, people pinning this label on themselves to give themselves a reason for why they were outcasts and easily picked on and targeted and for their failures and to have an excuse for their social failures and how others treat them and for being different and also reading how doctors will purposely misdiagnose autism in kids so they can get the services they need that is only available to those who have an autism diagnoses. But once I realized the issue was I was just insecured about myself, these comments quit bothering me.
Doesn’t have a job and isn’t looking for one
Their home or room is a big mess
This is based on my personal experience.
I posted this on Reddit to the question “What are red flags for a room mate?” and I could a couple responses that indicated offense taken but I didn’t let it bother me. They were “Sounds like depression” and “Hmm. Being that guy, I just worked my ass off for a few years so I could focus on studying instead of working during university (at least for the first couple of years).” That person said more of course but it’s not very relevant. At least they weren’t defensive responses like the other two have been to my previous comments.
But this comment got 291 points so far. It can be a good thing but sometimes it’s a bad thing because people on there sometimes upvote comments if it’s so bad or something totally stupid so everyone can see it. But I don’t worry about that.
I was talking about Jayden here when I made that comment.