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My Offensive Comments Collection part 2

Thursday, February 22nd, 2018

I am back and have abandoned this section. I have offended some more people online:

Someone posts about their kid and this mom adopted her son and he acts like a Kevin. Ever seen Let’s Talk About Kevin, this was her post:

As the title says my son hates me. I know people are going to tell me that this is a phase but it has been going on since he was an infant. He is now going on 5. I know that the post is going to make me sound like a terrible person. There is nothing you can say that I haven’t already thought about myself.

I am a single mom by choice. I know I know. That makes me a selfish bitch but I wanted to be a mom. My son was placed with me at 4 months. I am a working mom (again I know what you’re thinking) and had to put my son in daycare. He did well at daycare but did nothing but cry at home. Nothing I did worked. Someone else would take him and he would shut up. I took more parenting classes and tried those techniques. They rarely worked.

Then he became a toddler and the behavior continued. His preschool teachers have never had complaints but he is a terror at home. For a while he was potty trained at school but not at home. He sat in time out at school but screamed at home. I followed the same routine but he would kick me and punch me if I tried to put him in time out. He would run from me at stores and in parking lots. He stopped eating dinner for a week because I wouldn’t give him hotdogs.

His behavior has started to turn more violent. He hits me a lot and doesn’t listen to a thing I say. We are working with a therapist but she doesn’t believe all of his behaviors because he doesn’t act that way in front of her. He is an angel at therapy and in school. They don’t see it. Our last two therapist didnt either. He loves guns and they tell me it is normal boy behavior but they don’t see how he plays with them. He plays differently there. He is obsessed with death and tells me to die. He knows what it means.

He is very smart. He is acamdeically ahead but socially behind. He can talk to kids but prefers to be alone. At home he doesn’t let me play with him. I hear stories of kids who don’t let their parents be alone and I wish that was us. He doesn’t care that I’m even here. He rarely lets me hug or kiss him. He doesnt mind hugs or kisses from other family members though. I think he knows that he can manipulate people and I’m sure he hates me. I don’t know why. I know I’m not perfect but I have always tried. I’m tired of trying. I take the long way to his preschool and think about running away from all of this often. I love my son but he hates me. I don’t know what to do or how to repair our broken relationship. I get all of the blame but none of the help.

Some comments imply she is to blame for her child but this mom is trying to bond with her kid and get him to love her and according to her responses, he does not have RAD. This looks a lot like Let’s Talk About Kevin. I remember in the movie the mom tries to bond with Kevin but he pushes her away and he also refuses to potty train. He acts normal with everyone else but his mother. The more she tries, the worst he gets and then at the end, she doesn’t try anymore and guess what, she finally gets what she always wanted. So all she had to do for all these years was not try and bond with him. But was it her fault? No because she was doing what most moms do and they try everything to to get their kid’s attention and to love them and to bond and she did try to raise concerns but no one would believe her so the mom would blame herself and question herself, talk about gas lighting everyone was giving the mother. Taking him to a psychiatrist would have been useless because they would have seen a normal child and the mom would have come off as someone who is trying to get her kid labeled.

So I said in my comment:

You got a Kevin. Maybe try not bonding with him and see how that goes. If you have seen Lets Talk About Kevin, then you know what I mean. It felt like I was reading about the movie.

-12 downvotes it has as of right now.

Now last week on Valentine’s Day on Twitter, I believe someone I am following posts something fatlogi. It was a retweet and it read “Dear struggling teen, The problem is society, not your body. We see you. We’re here for you. There are entire communities who’ll love you exactly the way you are. @weightwatchers is not the answer. #wakeupweightwatchers. There was also another one I saw in the comments when I looked at the thread and it read “Teens, the problem is not your body pr the way you eat. The problem is society & the way it views bigger bodies. There is no wrong way to have a body. You are perfect just as you are, don’t let profit driven diet companies tell you otherwise” and it has the hashtag again and weightwatchers.

When I read those comments, I saw them as telling teens it’s okay to be obese and promoting it. I wrote “fatlogic, being too skinny and too big is unhealthy” and the person I was following asked me excuse me so I clarified what I meant. I said the tweet was promoting people to accept any body even though obesity causes medical issues and people who have lost weight have actually felt the difference in their feet and how much easier it is to go up and down the stairs. The I added in my new comment since Twitter only has limited characters that being under weight was just as bad too and explained the medical issues anorexia causes and how people have died from it. But the person did not take it well. While she clarified what the tweet meant, and she said thew tweet was actually meant, she accused me of fat shaming. All she had to do was clarify the tweet and leave it at that and it would have been the end of it. If anyone knows me, I do not like false accusations so I will get defensive and defend myself. Some people get enraged when falsely accused, I just get defensive. I told her I wasn’t fat shaming and explained I was pointing out the medical issues both obesity and anorexia face. I also asked her if she ever saw TV shows like Mr 600 Pound Life and saw how debilitating it is for them and asked if she promoted that. Instead of answering, she told me she promoted everyone accepting and loving their body and everyone but the person in that body keeping their opinions on that body to themselves and then said she was blocking me as she doesn’t accept fat shaming in her tweed. There she went accusing me again of fat shaming so she was one of those people who dismisses medical facts about obesity but doesn’t dismiss medical facts about eating disorders and anorexia. I have been checking out the fat acceptance community and I already wrote a post about it last week. But I did see posts at Tumblr and the fat people were spreading misinformation and also telling everyone how saying medical things about obesity is just a disguise to look like a health concern to fat shame. I also saw other tweets telling everyone to block anyone who fat shames and does “health concerns.” It is possible this person fell into that bullshit and now believes their conspiracies. Look, I have fat family members, my mom is fat, my in laws are fat, my husband is fat. I have relatives who are fat. They all know obesity is unhealthy and it has risks. Of course none of them are obese but my husband is considered obese but he just looks fat. He does not get offended by medical information about obesity and call it fat shaming. Even other fat people out there think this whole movement thing is bullshit and they know it’s unhealthy so they are either trying to lose weight or they don’t but they know it’s unhealthy. It’s stupid to hate them of course, it’s stupid to not treat them as human. If I hated fat people, I wouldn’t have married one and my husband was a lot bigger when we met. This person who blocked me isn’t even close to being fat or even obese. She might be overweight but she still looks normal. So why would she get offended is beyond me when I made fun of no one and didn’t judge anyone or give out any unsolicited advice on weight loss because that is just rude if I did that. It’s not like I wrote, “Attention fat people, time to put down the coke and burgers and stop eating junk food and start walking and quit eating all the time and stop being lazy slobs and get off your fat ass.” That would just be judgmental and implying all fat people eat like that and never work out and they love their soft drinks and fast food and anything processed and sugar.

Smoking is unhealthy
Skinny fat is unhealthy
Eating junk food is unhealthy
Drinking is unhealthy
Drugs are unhealthy
Being obsessed with a person is unhealthy
Addiction is unhealthy
Emotional eating is unhealthy

See what I did there? Where is the shame?

Now I was never fond of any diet programs and find them a waste of money and WeightWatchers have this point program and I am not sure how it’s supposed to work because some health foods have no points but how does that work, you can eat too much and still give yourself the same amount of calories you body uses. Then they weigh you every week and you are supposed to drop the pound and if you don’t, you are kicked out of the program if I am remembering correctly. To me that is like too much pressure and demand. Plus it costs money to join. I am too cheap to pay money to lose weight so I’d rather do it on my own, eat less and work out and drink water than calorie drinks. If this program is causing eating disorders like the modeling industry was causing, maybe they will change their way like the modeling industry has.

What is it with telling everyone to love their bodies, what about anorexics or obesity? Some anti fat acceptance fat people have explained loving your body just means you love it enough to take care of it and to make changes to be the healthy weight. Now that makes more sense and all you have to do is clarify that if I misunderstand it. They also said it means to accept any flaws or any burns or amputees your body has but not anorexia or obesity.

Now the next one I offended. I posted a thread on Wrongplanet, everyone misunderstands it because I didn’t know how to articulate it. Then when I try to clarify it and then asked if they got it now, someone took offense to it and accused me of being patronizing and wrote they don’t think they would be responding to my posts anymore.

There was another one I posted but I posted about it in my other blog and it was called weight loss is a sensitive topic
Okay is telling someone to put on weight thin shaming? Basically what I did would be called fat shaming by the fat acceptance because I gave the person weight loss advice when he complained about adult baby diapers not fitting him. They have other ridiculous things as fat shaming like weight loss or mentioning your weight loss, not wanting to be fat, and that one video I saw of these two doctors giving an autopsy to an obese body that was donated by the person who had died and that was considered fat shaming by them. See they dismiss science and the doctors did prove how unhealthy fat was and how it wraps around your organs and she did indeed died from heart disease and they showed the damage the fat has done to the liver because it had creases that was done by the body fat and they said it was doing damage to the liver and could tell by the creases. Then at the end they sewed the tummy back up and zipped the bag back up with the body. If anyone is curious about the video, her it is:

But in the comments people were focused on the doctor who was also overweight and couldn’t be focused on the body and what obesity does. I just wanted to tell everyone “who cares about his size. The video is about what obesity does to your body, not what size the doctor has.” My husband weighs more than this body. Oops did I just fat shame my own husband? Last time I checked what fat shaming is, it’s ridicule and belittling and making fun of someone for their size. I only stated a fact, not say it to make fun of him.

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No one wants to believe a kid can be evil

Friday, March 31st, 2017

This comment got four down votes as of right now:

 

I believe evil exists and I believe some are born with it. Jeffrey dahmar is an example and it’s possible a child to be evil. But no one wants to believe it. That kid might be sick. If it were my kid I would be rushing for hospitals and psychistrists and putting locks on everything and never let the kid out of my sight. Are the parents not aware?

 

Some parent online made this post here:

This is going to be a long story

My brother has this 4 soon to be 5 year old that I wouldn’t trust leaving my daughter alone with. He does some pretty sadistic things. He hits my child on purpose and the smile on his face when he laughs and smiles about it gives me chills. When he was younger he use to bite his siblings and niece’s and nephew’s. He’s grown out of that stage but now he scratches, punches, etc.

Today I’m writing cause it concerns me of what he actually did last night and I’m concerned for my child’s health. I just had woken up to make my child a bottle of milk (she has SPD and still is on bottles. As I was pouring her a bottle of milk I poured myself a glass as well and when I took a drink it tasted awful, like pure rubbing alcohol. At first I thought it was the glassed I poured it in but then I smelled the jug of milk and noticed there was a bottle of rubbing alcohol on the kitchen counter that was empty. I got panicked, spilled it all down the drain and started searching up what would happen if it was drank (I’m in panic mode now) I’m not sure if the bottle I made her previously was contaminated or not but she has SPD so I’m hoping and praying that it wasn’t cause she would know. I have no proof he did it but I just know in my heart he did. He’s a little sadistic shit of kid.

Anyway should I take my child to the E.R. So far she’s acting fine in her sleep but I’m not sure. She had a fever earlier but I think that was cause to her teeth (she’s been complaining her teeth hurt) has a dentist appointment tomorrow. Once again I don’t know if the milk had been contaminated earlier or just 4-5 hours ago.

Also, my brother and his wife are temporarily staying with us and because they had a conflict with my other brother they were staying with about their kids. So I feel like if I bring this up they’ll be devastated but their kid is just too bad

So it’s offensive that if your kid behaves like psychopath and it’s beyond normal,  you look for doctors and mental hospitals to help your child so they won’t be a psychopath and they learn to control it and it’s offensive to keep everything locked away so your kid can use anything as a weapon and keeping them in your sight so they won’t do anything evil because you are watching and you can’t trust them for a few minutes or in the other room by themselves. Also the mother said in her comments the kid is actually five going on six. But no one wants to believe it a kid can be that bad and you did nothing wrong to make your kid that way.

Collection of my “offensive” comments part 1

Wednesday, October 5th, 2016

Of years I have been posting online, people have always gotten provoked or offended by things I have said. I realize no matter how I word things, someone will always take offense. I can use I statements, someone will still take offense. I can even talk about my personal experience, someone will still take offense. This is the internet and I am sure this happens to everyone and I have seen it happen to others. So I decided I am going to start collecting my own comments that have offended someone and put them here for entertainment for others to read. I even started thinking about starting a game thread online on a forum saying “I am offended” and it could be about anything silly like “I am offended that they cancelled Parenthood” or “I am offended someone said online they got a new puppy.”

Now on with my “offensive” comments. These ones here have been recent.

This seems to be a pattern I have noticed and I am not sure if it’s a coincidence.

In A Teenager’s Journey written by Richard Pelzer brother of Dave Pelzer, he wrote that his mom all of a sudden didn’t remember any abuse she did to him so he thought she was a schizophrenic.

In one of Sarah Burleton’s books, she wrote in there about her younger sister Emily telling her how their mother has no memory of doing any abuse to her and having a donkey on her land whom she killed and Emily was really worried because she wondered what if her mom really was sick.

I think I have heard of other stories about abusers forgetting what they did to their victims.

Now for the final part, I finally got a message from my ex also denying all the abuse she did to me. The only thing she admitted was the Dish network thing and apologized for “taking too long” to give it to me and sorry it put me through suck stress. I think she meant to say such stress.

Do they really get amnesia or are they just pretending to not remember? Why does this happen? Is it gaslighting they are doing to mess with our heads?

Someone in the thread made it personal saying to me and everyone else who responded to my thread that we all must be perfect and never hurt anyone. Then he starts talking about in his post how people make mistakes and how you can hurt people without being a psychopath and saying you can hurt people and have a conscience and also saying  you can hurt people and accept responsibility for your actions. Then he asks if people should just up and kill themselves and they make a mistake and if we think so little of people who have offended us and so on, just a lecture he gave us.

First of all I was only asking if abusers forget their abuse or not, this had nothing to do about being perfect or not every have made a mistake ever.

That person did tell me later in my other thread that it was nothing I did wrong and it was just him because he could identify himself in my post and said I was fine and didn’t mean to upset me.

Sometimes so called self diagnosers with AS don’t even know what it is. I didn’t know what it was when I was first diagnosed. For a while I just thought AS was a set of behaviors and flaws and being a target for being discriminated and targeted and being rejected because that is what I had read about it online long before they had blogs so I could to what I was reading about it even though not all of it fit. So I had always worked on my behaviors to get better so I often question my symptoms since I keep hearing how exhausting it is to keep it up while it’s been the opposite for me and how it’s a lifetime condition and supposedly you never get better from practice. So confusing. Maybe I was just socially awkward and just had a bad personality and it got me diagnosed because of my anxiety and low self esteem and because of my incompetent school staff and other mean kids who were intolerant of differences and because I was trying to be “normal” to better myself so I could be “normal” and be liked and have friends. After all some people just need to have this condition to feel better about themselves and feel it’s not their fault for their failures and how others treat them.

I talked about myself here though I have never self diagnosed. But back then before we had blogs, all we had were “webMD” articles so it was all vague what I was reading about Asperger’s.  I keep questioning my symptoms and wonder if my mom is right what she says to me about myself. I do often believe I was only diagnosed with this because of my anxiety (my mom said the same too), mean kids and their lack of tolerance for differences (my mom also says they were just mean kids), incompetent school staff, me trying to be normal because I didn’t accept myself and I had a narrow view on the word normal. Also Stanley Turecki did write in his book that some difficult children do get diagnosed. I don’t think all people who are different always get diagnosed because it depend son their life factors, what kind of people they are with, their personality, how they handle things, but however if they are having struggles like I did, a diagnoses will be given. A diagnoses means getting the help and support you need, the education, it also opens more doors in your life so you can be normal. I don’t know if an anxiety disorder diagnoses alone would get me to where I am now.

But someone took this comment personally and made it be about them and said I was very judgmental to those with AS and self identifiers and said what she has gathered most so called self diagnosers actually seem to do a lot of research before coming to their conclusion. Then said before she got her diagnoses, she had the necessity to self diagnose and trust her it was not something she wanted to be part of and then said she made very sure there might be something to it before she even believed herself that is may be a possibility. She did say more too but it bothered me that she took offense to my comment and didn’t take it literal. So I said.

Um I did say SOMETIMES and SOME self diagnosers. What happened to your literal thinking? Oh wait, aspies are people too so they are not going to fit every symptom in the book so hence not taking me literal.

Yes they are human so of course they won’t always be literal and they will also read into things too that are not there just like anyone else. I don’t think many people are a textbook case and that is pretty rare. Because I get so sick of people taking my comments personally and taking them out of context and making it all about them, I acted this way because other people have already done it to me in the past and sometimes I get so fed up, I don’t get nice about it.

The post thinks I question other peoples diagnoses which is what she said in her reply to this comment even though I said nothing about the diagnosed. She also said I was being sarcastic in my response. She said said I make the forum not a good place to be and I am one of the people she needed to avoid because of my “BS” I say angers and stresses her. Then said “But that is just an excuse right?” and then said I don’t care and I lack insight and compassion and and have no understanding.

Then of course that member goes on starting a thread about me and talks about it and other members she has a issue with. I of course don’t respond in it because I don’t tell she was upset and I didn’t want to trigger her more so I sat back so she could calm down and plus even apologizing for getting her upset wouldn’t do any good and telling her what my intention was because she would just call it gas lighting and say my apology was fake because I wasn’t sorry for what I wrote, I would only be sorry for she got upset. And I know how that would come off to her. Then she left the forum and did come back but left again.

But I figure this is how she feels about herself  in my post I wrote and my post just triggered her so she took it out on me. But so far she hasn’t apologized or admitted her bad at her end.

These kind of topics used to make me feel uncomfortable too about autism being over diagnosed, people pinning this label on themselves to give themselves a reason for why they were outcasts and easily picked on and targeted and for their failures and to have an excuse for their social failures and how others treat them and for being different and also reading how doctors will purposely misdiagnose autism in kids so they can get the services they need that is only available to those who have an autism diagnoses. But once I realized the issue was I was just insecured about myself, these comments quit bothering me.

Doesn’t have a job and isn’t looking for one

Their home or room is a big mess

This is based on my personal experience.

I posted this on Reddit to the question “What are red flags for a room mate?” and I could a couple responses that indicated offense taken but I didn’t let it bother me. They were “Sounds like depression” and “Hmm. Being that guy, I just worked my ass off for a few years so I could focus on studying instead of working during university (at least for the first couple of years).” That person said more of course but it’s not very relevant. At least they weren’t defensive responses like the other two have been to my previous comments.

But this comment got 291 points so far. It can be a good thing but sometimes it’s a bad thing because people on there sometimes upvote comments if it’s so bad or something totally stupid so everyone can see it. But I don’t worry about that.

I was talking about Jayden here when I made that comment.

More later.