I do not doubt that people on the autism spectrum can cause problems for their partners and give them problems and stress but I do not agree with the whole Cassandra Affective Disorder thing. Here’s why?
Every person with a disorder is going to be hard for anyone. Even being with an ASD person as an ASD person is going to be hard too. Being with someone who has an eating disorder or an anxiety disorder, obsessive compulsive disorder, ADHD, PTSD, etc is going to be hard for everyone who is with them. Hell even having PMS is going to make it hard for your partner. But you know what, there has not been any alternate labels created for those who have been affected by other disorders so why only autism?
Why isn’t there a label for those who are affected by partners who have any cluster B disorders or a label for those who are affected by a partner who has anxiety or OCD or ADHD, cerebral palsy, being confined to a wheelchair, PTSD, etc.
So this whole Cassandra thing is ridiculous. We already have a diagnoses like PTSD, anxiety, and depression so why a new label? What is so special about being in a relationship with someone on the autistic spectrum that it warrants its own label? Because it means deprivation and they say that the autistic person withholds love and support from their partners so it harms them but that still doesn’t make sense because a person with any disorder is going to cause problems for their partner and there are no separate labels for it. What about none ASD people out there who also don’t show love and support to their partners and also lack empathy for them? Why not make a label for that too? So why only ASD?
What about people who are asexual or have a low sex drive or for some reason lacks interest in sex? Why not make that a label because after all the partner is going to be starved from sex.
Or what about people who are introverts and their partner is a extrovert, should we have a label for that because they might be starved from socializing and being with their friends or from going out with their partner to places?
What about people who have sensory processing issues? Shall we also have a label for that because their partners might also be starved from giving affection to them and be starved from having “normal” sex and not being able to do affection and love?
What about people who suck at giving gifts, shall we have a label for that because the partner might be starved from getting good gifts from them so therefore it’s going to affect them thinking their partner doesn’t put enough effort into it? Yes this is a real thing because there is a thread on Reddit about getting bad gifts from their partner but yet they can give great baby shower gifts. Then there is the other thread about their partner suck with birthdays so they act like a jerk on that day so maybe there should be a label for that too.
This is how silly it gets with this whole Cassandra thing and why it’s discriminatory and why so many ASD people object to this label.